Archive for February, 2012

Important Details in Planning Your Wedding Ceremony

Many aspects of wedding planning can engage your interest. You want the catering at the reception to be just right. You want to select just the right wedding favors. You need to coordinate the transportation very carefully. But the wedding ceremony is the very heart of the entire enterprise, in both senses of the word.

 

But, far from creating anxiety, this task can be carried out with great success by anyone who takes it one step at a time.

 

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Those first steps will involve considering the decorations for the actual ceremony. That can be something as simple as colorful bows tied onto the pew. Or, it can involve an entire sub-contractor completely decking out the venue with flowers, ribbons, a lovely arch or chuppah, and more. Much depends on the venue you reserved.

 

Most will want to give some thought to music. While reading poetry or literature is an honored and delightful custom, the music helps set the mood from the moment the first guest enters. It can be the traditional tunes or it may be your favorite Beach Boys song to enhance your chosen theme. Whatever you choose, don’t overpower everyone with it. It should be in the background. You are in the foreground.

 

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You’ll want to sketch out and rehearse the processional. The ring bearer and flower girl are still part of many ceremonies. The parents of the bride and groom often walk down the aisle. Naturally, the entrance of the bride needs to be coordinated. 

 

Many choose to add personal touches within each of these standard steps. For example, the priest and groom may enter from the side door, then the groomsmen and bridesmaids enter. Usually those furthest from the bride and groom go first. But there are many variations depending on religion, custom and personal choice.

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You’ll want to plan out your vows. Many choose to follow the tradition of repeating the chosen words of a priest or pastor. Others prefer a more contemporary ceremony in which the bride and groom read or speak something that carries a deep personal meaning for them.

 

You may create your own small speech from scratch. Or, you can choose from hundreds of sources. There are the classics of Shelly or Keats, and the modern poets and writers to help you find those words just out of reach.

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That part of the ceremony may include actions as well. Lighting a pair of candles, pouring different colored sands into a single container and many more simple actions all help convey the symbolism involved in the wedding ceremony.

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Then there are the actions that are still part of nearly every ceremony, an exchange of rings. This is easily ironed out in rehearsal, but take care to ensure that all are informed of and practice their roles. The best man fumbling for the ring for two minutes is only amusing in the movies.

 

And, don’t forget that all important moment: the first kiss. Practice removing any veil, how long the kiss will last and other actions. Some things about the wedding should be spontaneous. This part should be choreographed so that the guests remember what you want them to remember.

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Planning your Rehearsal Dinner

A formal dinner that follows the wedding rehearsal is a very old tradition. It represents an opportunity to bring the parents of the bride and groom, and possibly the best man and maid of honor, together. In some cases, it will be the first time these wedding party members have even met.

 

A rehearsal dinner isn’t mandatory. But it is an excellent way to bring together some of the wedding party and thank everyone for helping out. It also can cement or initiate some social bonds that will make the marriage easier during its early days, which can be bumpy.

 

No specific practices are set in stone, but there are some common elements.

 

The dinner often presents the perfect chance to toast all those present for their support. Add a practical element to that important emotional gesture. The dinner is a good time to give gifts to many of those involved in the actual wedding.

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The groom’s parents traditionally paid for the rehearsal dinner, but times are changing. As social rituals evolve, more couples have elected to incur the cost themselves. In most wedding budgets it represents a modest percentage of the total, so financially it’s usually feasible.

 

Similarly, planning the event has shifted. It was often seen in days past as a way of celebrating the bride and groom, and particularly her efforts in planning the wedding. So, the task was taken up by the groom’s mother. This relieved the bride of at least one item on a very long list. Today, many couples choose to plan the rehearsal dinner along with the rehearsal. That puts it back on the prospective bride’s shoulders, but many prefer it this way.

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In theory, anyone who has a part in the ceremony may be invited. But again there are no rules set in stone here. Some couples choose to open it up to include close friends. Others want to restrict the rehearsal dinner to a much more intimate setting that includes only parents and the bride and groom.

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Printed invitations are still a good idea, though some of that activity has shifted to the Internet. This makes it easy to track who is coming and who isn’t and saves on printing and mailing costs. Be sure to send them out well in advance in either case. 

 

It isn’t mandatory to eat at the most expensive restaurant in town. But if you plan to have a rehearsal dinner at all, something a little nicer than the usual is appropriate.

 

Here again, reservations should be made at least a week in advance. Few fine restaurants can accommodate a party of 6 or 8 or 12 with only a few hours notice. That’s especially true for the majority of wedding rehearsals that take place the Friday before a Saturday wedding or during the highly busy summer season.

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Relax at your wedding rehearsal dinner. It’s probably the last time you will before the big day.

 

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Wedding Rehearsal Dinner Games To Liven Up The Party

Wedding rehearsal dinners are a time to relax, calm down and enjoy a quiet evening before the big event the next day. But adding some fun and games into the rehearsal dinner isn’t such a bad idea. It’s a great way to help everyone let off some steam, calm down and enjoy each other.

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If you’re planning a sit-down formal dinner, fun games and activities can still be on the menu. In fact, if a formal dinner is part of the plans, having some interesting activities on the agenda is not only a good idea, but also an excellent one. There’s been a lot of planning, and a lot of stress and the wedding party and close friends and family will welcome the opportunity to have a little fun.

 

The success or failure of any games or activities largely depends not just on the planning but your venue. If you’re having a sit-down dinner in a restaurant, try to get a private room. Then a myriad of fun activities can be planned, such as “pin the veil on the bride”, in which blindfolded guests spin around a few times, then try to pin the veil on a picture of the bride. Silly, yes, but also fun.

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One fun activity sure to help everyone blow off some steam is charades. Whoever is up will act out a scene from the bride or groom’s life, so it might be when graduating from college, or getting a huge promotion at work. The “it” person might choose to act out when the bride tripped and fell at another person’s wedding or when the groom saved a dog from getting hit by a car. This is a little twist on charades that helps people get to know the bride and groom better, and adds intimacy to what is already an intimate event. 

 

If the wedding rehearsal dinner is a bit less formal and held in someone’s home, there are many more activities that can take place. For example, how about a night of playing board games? Who needs formal food? You can have that the next day at the formal wedding. At this rehearsal dinner party, the games are center stage. 

 

Bring in some sandwiches and tell everyone to wear their comfortable clothes and settle in for a night of board games. You can set up games on different tables, divide people into groups of 4 or 5 and have everyone rotate tables at designated times. You can even instruct game players that when they move to another table, the game stays out the way it is.  So, for example, dad might begin playing Monopoly where the bride was and he’s stuck with only a little money in the bank and no houses on Boardwalk.

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So, let’s say the bride and groom are big into sports. If the wedding is to be held in the summer and the days are long, how about a game of touch football or baseball? You can play bride’s family against groom’s family, men against women, or for a twist, the bride plays with the groom’s family and the groom with the bride’s family. Any combination works. The idea here is to have some fun, relax and enjoy each other’s company.

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Other outdoor activities can include anything that is physical and might help people blow off steam. Has the bride been more a “bridezilla” than anything? How about a game of tag where she’s it? Or you can create two bridesmaid’s dress-up trunks. Go to a thrift store, fill the trunks with old prom dresses and large-size shoes, and costume jewelry. Divide the guests into two different teams and have someone sit with a timer. The team who dresses one of the men (ideally, the groom and best man or perhaps the two dads) first wins. Be sure to have a camera at the rehearsal dinner/event, because this is one activity you’ll want to have pictures of!

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 February 16, 2012  Madame Chireau   Leave a comment
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Planning your Rehearsal Dinner

A formal dinner that follows the wedding rehearsal is a very old tradition. It represents an opportunity to bring the parents of the bride and groom, and possibly the best man and maid of honor, together. In some cases, it will be the first time these wedding party members have even met.

 

A rehearsal dinner isn’t mandatory. But it is an excellent way to bring together some of the wedding party and thank everyone for helping out. It also can cement or initiate some social bonds that will make the marriage easier during its early days, which can be bumpy.

 

No specific practices are set in stone, but there are some common elements.

 

The dinner often presents the perfect chance to toast all those present for their support. Add a practical element to that important emotional gesture. The dinner is a good time to give gifts to many of those involved in the actual wedding.

2463985

The groom’s parents traditionally paid for the rehearsal dinner, but times are changing. As social rituals evolve, more couples have elected to incur the cost themselves. In most wedding budgets it represents a modest percentage of the total, so financially it’s usually feasible.

 

Similarly, planning the event has shifted. It was often seen in days past as a way of celebrating the bride and groom, and particularly her efforts in planning the wedding. So, the task was taken up by the groom’s mother. This relieved the bride of at least one item on a very long list. Today, many couples choose to plan the rehearsal dinner along with the rehearsal. That puts it back on the prospective bride’s shoulders, but many prefer it this way.

248490

In theory, anyone who has a part in the ceremony may be invited. But again there are no rules set in stone here. Some couples choose to open it up to include close friends. Others want to restrict the rehearsal dinner to a much more intimate setting that includes only parents and the bride and groom.

2463983

Printed invitations are still a good idea, though some of that activity has shifted to the Internet. This makes it easy to track who is coming and who isn’t and saves on printing and mailing costs. Be sure to send them out well in advance in either case. 

 

It isn’t mandatory to eat at the most expensive restaurant in town. But if you plan to have a rehearsal dinner at all, something a little nicer than the usual is appropriate.

 

Here again, reservations should be made at least a week in advance. Few fine restaurants can accommodate a party of 6 or 8 or 12 with only a few hours notice. That’s especially true for the majority of wedding rehearsals that take place the Friday before a Saturday wedding or during the highly busy summer season.

2463986

Relax at your wedding rehearsal dinner. It’s probably the last time you will before the big day.

 

Go to  www.memoiresdamour.com and get your FREE report,

 8 Secrets for Letting your “Inner Designer” Plan your Wedding, While Still Keeping the Details In Check

 

 February 13, 2012  Madame Chireau   Leave a comment
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